My Journey into Parenthood

May 28, 2017

I was terrified of having children before I became a parent. I was afraid that becoming a parent would mean losing my cool and trading it in for a life of monotonous responsibility and constant chaos. The presence of parents around me seemed to validate my fears. Parents always appeared to be stressed, and their children appeared to be running wild.

When I became a parent, however, my perspective shifted dramatically. It was as if a switch had been thrown. Suddenly, I felt a strong sense of protection for all children, not just my own. My previous perceptions of parenthood had been skewed by instances when things went wrong.

I failed to notice the wonderful moments that come with raising a child. It's in the quiet moments that you realize how peaceful children can be. You wouldn't trade these moments for anything else. It could be as simple as going somewhere together, tucking them into bed, or pushing them on the swings.

My childhood memories also painted a distorted picture of parenthood for me. As a child who frequently got into mischief, I saw parenthood as a form of law enforcement. I didn't realize there were good times until I had my own children. Children become more than just loved ones; they become friends. They're interesting, and playing with them can be a lot of fun.

Parenthood, on the other hand, is not without its difficulties. There are times when drudgery and terror coexist. And it is true that having children can have an impact on your productivity. Children have schedules, and as a parent, you must work around their schedule. This means that you must work at the same time every day, whether you are inspired or not.

Despite these obstacles, I was able to adapt. If work can only be done at certain times, it will be done at those times. And, while I don't get as much done as I used to before having children, I still get enough done.

Becoming a parent may also have an impact on your goals. Your attention is frequently drawn to your children rather than to your own projects. This is not to say that your ambition should dwindle. If anything, it should motivate you to do more.

In retrospect, while I miss the freedom I had before becoming a parent, I realize I didn't make the most of it. As a parent, I realize that genuine happiness far outnumbers those of my childless years.

Each parenting experience is unique, and I consider myself fortunate. I believe that the concerns I had before becoming a parent are widespread. The joy that children bring, on the other hand, is a universal experience shared by all parents.

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Written by Phong Tran who lives and works in Tokyo building useful things. You can follow him on Twitter

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